I think I and some girls get to caught up with the "he loves me, he doesn't love me" game. Or the thought process where you tell yourself if I only do this (like lose 15 pounds) he'll love me more, in my case... if only I could catch a really big shark (or learn to drive this stupid car better) ... he would love me more.... Chick! PLEASE if this dude doesn't love you right now right now, no matter how many fish or pounds you lose (or cars you strip gears on) it not gonna sway him. Luckily! If you would only love yourself and be happy with yourself it would make you more attractive. More attractive than the 10 pounds, the catching of more fish, and buying of new cars. YOU set the tone dear. If you act like a bad ass who loves herself ... he's gonna see that and love that bad ass. Lol. More importantly the doing of things for yourself and not for him is better emotionally. So screw you mando! I'm losing weight for me! And catching sharks...ok wait let's be serious catching smaller yet still impressive fish because I WANT TO. (Look on the car thing I think I'm as good as I'm gonna get. You shoulda thought about that before you bought the damn thing. AND that's YOUR dream car not mine. PLUS! I'm really not that bad at driving it. You just wish you were married to the female Pastrana. And guess what she doesn't exist and if she did she would want to be with him and probably an STI. You got a WRX mo fo... so you get a WRX wife. Bahahah ahahaha)
Moral of the very long story. LOVE yourself because he won't until you do. I didn't love me for a long time and I think my relationship suffered and for other strenuous reasons is still suffering but I'm working on it. Sometimes writing it out makes you see the light.